When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us: Letting Go of Their Problems, Loving Them Anyway, and Getting on with Our Lives

When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us: Letting Go of Their Problems, Loving Them Anyway, and Getting on with Our Lives Author Jane Adams
ISBN-10 074323281X
ISBN-13 9780743232814
Year 2004-06-03
Pages 224
Language English
Publisher Free Press
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How do todays parents cope when the dreams we had for our children clash with reality What can we do for our twenty and even thirty somethings who cant seem to grow up How can we help our depressed dependent or addicted adult children the ones who cant get their lives started who are just marking time or even doing it Whats the right strategy when our smart capable adultolescents wont leave home or come boomeranging back Who can we turn to when the kids arent all right and we their parents are frightened frustrated resentful embarrassed and especially disappointed In this groundbreaking book a social psychologist whos been chronicling the lives of American families for over two decades confronts our deepest concerns including our silence and self imposed sense of isolation when our grown kids have failed to thrive She listens to a generation that did everything right and expected its children to grow into happy healthy successful adults But they havent at least not yetand meanwhile were letting their problems threaten our health marriages security freedom careers or retirement and other family relationships With warmth empathy and perspective Dr Adams offers a positive life affirming message to parents who are still trying to fix their adult childrenStop She shows us how to separate from their problems without separating from them and how to be a positive force in their lives while getting on with our own As we navigate this critical passage in our second adulthood and their first the bestselling author of Im Still Your Mother reminds us that the pleasures and possibilities of postparenthood should not depend on how our kids turn out but on how we do